We may disagree on a lot, but I hope we can agree on this:
Some people live in a black and white world, but the world is not black and white.
Believe me, I understand the appeal of black and white thinking.
It’s simpler. It’s cleaner. You don’t have to understand anyone else’s feelings. All you know is if someone disagrees with you, they’re WRONG.
The problem, of course, is that black and white thinking creates friction out in the real world, where there are a lot of bright, ethical people with a different worldview.
I was thinking about this when I was making the Need vs. Needy segment in the video I shared with you on Tuesday.
I was well aware that I could potentially offend some black and white thinkers, but it was too important to me to present a more nuanced view about the concept of need.
In short, everyone has needs.
If your needs are excessive, you may unintentionally come across as “needy” – which is usually unattractive and draining.
Thus, the most effective way to be with a man is “vulnerable.” Being vulnerable allows you to share your thoughts and feelings openly without driving men away.
Since you value vulnerability in men – as opposed to weak men or standoffish men – it’s important to recognize that men value vulnerability, too.
The most effective way to be with a man is “vulnerable.” Being vulnerable allows you to share your thoughts and feelings openly without driving men away.
Once you start leading with trust, authenticity, and vulnerability, you will attract more men, connect with more men, and be able to find a boyfriend fast.
There’s only one problem about finding a boyfriend fast.
You have no idea where your story is going to end up.
It’s not that hard to find a guy who’s willing to sleep with you regularly under the guise of being a “boyfriend.”
It is much harder to find a guy who treats you consistently well over the long haul.
That’s why I’ve made another video that addresses some of the most timeless questions you have when you’re dating someone seriously.
What is my boyfriend thinking?
How can I make my boyfriend want to commit to me?
I refuse to settle on the wrong man, but why is it so hard to find the right one?
If Tuesday’s video covered Confidence, Meeting Men and Dating, this one talks about what happens AFTER you finally meet a great guy.
Understanding Men. Relationships. Commitment.
Once you start leading with trust, authenticity, and vulnerability, you will attract more men, connect with more men, and be able to find a boyfriend fast.
If all three of those have been hard to come by, I can’t wait to show you how to turn your love life around instantly.
To experience the joy of having a cute guy find you wildly attractive…
To have a partner who does what he says and says what he means…
To relax around the man who makes you feel safe, heard and understood…
If you want to turn the corner on the failures of your past, click here to watch my second video.
When you’re done, please, share your takeaways in the comments section, and register for my free webinar, “How You Can Stop Wasting Time on the Wrong Men and Finally Choose Your Husband” on Monday, December 14th at 5pm Pacific/8pm Eastern .
This is a one-time only event – with all new advice on confidence – that will give you all the tools you need to find the man of your dreams – in just 90 minutes.
No more loneliness. No more frustration. No more embarrassment. No more anxiety.
Soon, you will feel happy and connected, knowing you are loved by a man who will do anything to make you happy.
Enjoy the video! And don’t forget to register for next Monday’s HUGE event!
Warmest wishes and much love,
Your friend,
Evan
P.S. Zoe finally learned to understand men. Here is the result:
Before Evan, I thought that if I had a great date with a guy, then it meant that he wanted me in his life. I thought that if there was immediate chemistry and attraction and good conversation, then we were meant to be together. I thought that it was perfectly all right for me to remind a man that I existed in between dates, by texting, calling, emailing, and checking up on him via the dating website. I thought that the best way to be happy in a relationship was to keep the man on a short leash. Unfortunately, none of these beliefs were getting me the sort of results I wanted in my dating life. It had been over a decade since my last satisfying relationship and I had nearly resigned myself to being alone and unhappy for the rest of my life.
From listening to Evan, I learned that men will do what they want to do and my nagging, complaining, and harping will not get him to change his mind or his behavior. What it will do is create distance and cause him to feel unsafe/unhappy around me, leading to his withdrawal. I learned that when a man is really into you, he’ll be thinking about you, calling you, eager to see you again, and generally keeping well in touch in between dates. He’ll be interested to learn more about you, as a person. Even though he’s anxious for it, he’ll wait for sex. He’ll respond to appreciation and acceptance. He’s not commitmentphobic.
I have to say that I am in the most satisfying relationship I have ever had and I owe it all to Evan’s coaching. I have been challenged to examine my beliefs about relationships and about men and about myself. I have been urged to step up my communication and meet my man at the level of honesty that he is proposing. I have been gently reproved. I am in an exclusive relationship with a man who is always happy to see me, who treats me like a lady, and who welcomes me into every aspect of his life, unreservedly. He tells everyone how happy he is with me. I feel completely accepted by him and I look forward to more time with him.
Zoe F.
You want a man who tells everyone how happy he is with you?
This is how you get him.
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