He Said/She Said: November 2015

Monday, 30 November 2015

Moms work more than dads: Unequal multitasking hurts parenting relationships

… and it can affect parenting relationships. How parents juggle multiple tasks … work makes for unhealthy parenting relationships. Multitasking for fathers involved less … their children and it helped relationships. Since there is a parenting … of interaction alone can damage relationships. Moms (and maybe even dads …

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Roots, relationships and resources

Jessica Griggs spent the summer of 2015 as an intern at Birmingham Botanical Gardens. The UAB student was awarded the Rotary Club of Shades Valley Internship. As part of her studies, she took a look at many parts of Alabama's largest living museum and …

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At Dallas' Medrano Middle School, discipline driven by relationships, not punishment

… . “Restorative discipline is really building relationships with kids and teaching them … , and he began focusing on relationships instead of trying to manage … . “It’s all about building relationships; letting them know that someone …

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The Dynamics of Modern World Interracial Relationships

… involved with romantic and intimate relationships. Love does not see color … their interracial friendships into relationships. These interracial relationships have been improved throughout … shouldn’t think that interracial relationships could lead towards a challenging …

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Increasingly Value-Focused US Medical Imaging Market Redefines Vendor-Customer Relationships

… , in their wake, alter provider-vendor relationships. The shift to value-based, outcomes-based …

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Is My Guy Shit Testing Me?

Is My Guy Shit Testing Me

I am currently seeing a guy, for just over a month now (we just recently slept together), and he’s been very disclosing about what he’s looking for. He’s also very up front with his past relationships, what he won’t tolerate in relationships, and so on and so forth. Charles is a Type A guy, successful businessman who demands a lot of things from the people around him. He does not take any crap from people, and is bluntly truthful. We have been very honest throughout our courtship, any questions he’s got, I’ll answer. I’m not one to pry normally, and perhaps that is to my detriment a little bit. I have been called confusing, and been told by this man that he does not know quite where he stands with me. We know a decent amount about our past relationships, my past engagements (yes, “s”, as in 2), and our recent dating history. He is very affectionate, even in front of his roommates/friends, introduces me to new people if we run into them, takes me on dates, usually calls every night, but is insanely busy overall.

In all of his honesty, Charles seems to be almost testing me, and seeing what my reaction will be to certain things. Here are a few examples: sharing about his exes (I realize there’s a reason they are exes, that’s not my concern), talking about past sexual experiences (again, not a jealousy issue), letting me know that he doesn’t find it “appropriate” to continue speaking with someone you previously dated, when he’s involved with someone, and that he will not tolerate anyone who does that. He also will lets me know if someone from his past pops up, FB messages him, texts him, what they want, etc., makes jokes about our future “60 years down the road” (exact quote), and asks me if anyone from my past has contacted me recently.

I have no issue being honest, but I wonder if I’m getting set up! There are others, and of course more details that I could share, but I’m beginning to think him sharing and letting me know that he is expecting these things is his way of testing me. Is this something that guys do? Is Charles testing me with these things?

Thanks, Donna

This is probably my confirmation bias as a male dating coach who listens to women all day long, or as a man who dated 300+ women, but this sounds a lot like the things that women do to test men. And, like you, I don’t like it one bit.

It’s in the asking of the question that the person issuing these shit tests ultimately fails.

No one wants to get hurt.
No one wants to waste his/her time.
No one wants to invest years of falling in love, only to find out that you’re ultimately incompatible.

So what do people do? Little shit tests like this to try to gather information in advance.

In addition to what you wrote above, I’ve heard all sorts of similar tests:

1. So…where do you see yourself in five years? (To ensure he wants marriage and kids.)
2. So…how many people have you slept with? (To ensure he’s not an immoral slut.)
3. So…what kind of car do you drive? (To ensure he’s successful and stylish.)
4. So…have you ever cheated on anyone before? (To ensure he’s not that kind of guy.)
5. So…are you in touch with any of your exes? (To ensure he’s emotionally available.)

Understand, the ideas behind these questions are actually quite reasonable. It’s in the asking of the question that the person issuing these shit tests ultimately fails.

His answer will tell you far more than I can.

Because if you’re asking these questions, you’re only indicating that you’re afraid, insecure, and mistrustful that you can’t gather information organically over time. Which is why you resort to “interviewing” your date to find out if he/she gives the “right” answers to your questions.

The problem is that it’s awkward. It makes a partner feel like a piece of meat. He/she knows she’s being tested, and probably doesn’t enjoy it.

So I can’t speak to how other people handle things, but as a direct communicator, I’d come out and say it. “Hey, I’m getting the sense that you’re “testing” me on issues of communication and fidelity. Do you want to tell me about issues you’ve had in the past with women? Because these questions feel a bit uncomfortable and inorganic to me.” And then let him speak.

His answer will tell you far more than I can.

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Threats against children during the separation process for women in abusive relationships

Mothers who separate from their abusive partners are four times more likely to report threats to take or to harm their children than those who stay in the relationship, a study by Sam Houston State University found. In "Indirect Abuse Involving …

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Sunday, 29 November 2015

eNCA | WATCH: DJ Sbu on relationships, Mzekezeke and business

JOHANNESBURG - Sibusiso Leope, or Dj Sbu as he's popularly known, sat down with eTV's The Close Up to talk about his childhood in Thembisa township, his television and radio career as well as his association with erstwhile Kwaito star Mzekezeke. …

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Pfizer shows relationships still a big deal in business

Pamela Barbaglia and Mike Stone Published 28/11/2015 | 02:30 Alan Schwartz knows how to play a long game. The executive chairman of boutique investment bank Guggenheim Partners spent almost 20 years cultivating Pfizer boss Ian Read as a client. His …

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Building lasting relationships for growth in BOP

… 30 November 2015 Building lasting relationships for growth in BOP Bay … to stimulate further growth. “The relationships that have been formed both …

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Public tolerant of same-sex relationships, but less so among their own friends: poll

… friends, researchers say. Although same-sex relationships are becoming more widely accepted … , many are tolerant of the relationships only among unfamiliar people, the …

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Saturday, 28 November 2015

Anton Du Beke slams Strictly relationships as unprofessional: 'That's not the way I behave'

As Anton Du Beke quicksteps towards this year’s final with glamorous Proms presenter Katie Derham, he has finally addressed the “curse of Strictly”. Previous series have a history of contestants partnering up with their teachers but the 49-year-old …

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SC must review Sec 377 ruling, allow gay relationships: Jaitley, Chidambaram

… 377 as far as gay relationships are concerned. READ ALSO: Govt … but India punishes even gay relationships Repeal Section 377: US judgment …

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SC must review Sec 377 ruling, allow gay relationships: Jaitley, ChidambaramFinance minister Arun Jaitley and his predecessor P Chidambaram said the SC shouldn't have reversed the Delhi HC's order de-criminalizing consensual sex among gay adults.

Friday, 27 November 2015

Eskimos QB Reilly creates relationships with receivers on and off the field

Edmonton Eskimos quarterback Mike Reilly, right, works with receiver Adarius Bowman during a practice at Winnipeg's Investors Group Field on Nov. 27, 2015. The Eskimos will play the Ottawa Redblacks in the 103rd Grey Cup on Sunday. Greg Southam / …

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[Video] How Long Should You Wait Before You Sleep With Him?

Here’s the latest video from the series I created with Three Day Rule. It’s called “How Long Should You Wait Before You Sleep With Him?”

In it, Kate and I discuss how early into a relationship it’s acceptable to have sex with a guy. We both agree there is no right or wrong answer to this question, but we also strongly suggest you’re aware of the potential consequences of getting physical too quickly.

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Thursday, 26 November 2015

Relationships that are True-to-Life

… and downs of life and relationships, and falling in and out …

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(Video) How Loving Men Can Make Men Love You In Return

How Loving Men Can Make Men Love You In Return

This is technically a video for men, but it’s SO relevant for my women readers.

It’s an interview with my friend, Allana Pratt. I watched every second of this. You should too. When you’re done, I want you to consider how much men and women are truly alike – and how our insecurities are the SAME.

Allana and I had lunch last month and she is one of the only women coaches I know that have classic masculine energy (intelligence and drive), but a remarkable feminine energy that brings out the best in men.

Consider how much men and women are truly alike – and how our insecurities are the SAME.

To be fair, Allana speaks with emotion more than logic. She will tell you to breathe from your vagina and things like that. But I’ll tell you this:

1. She is the hands-down sexiest woman I know. (and yes, my wife is aware of Allana – we’ve had her over in the pool with her son). When I’m with her, I want to do things for her. That’s feminine power at its finest.

2. She listens to men’s complaints about women just as I listen to women’s complaints about men. And literally every thing that you feel about men, men feel about you as well. Confused, powerless, not enough, constantly under attack, etc. All you have to do is read the comment section to know this. Allana’s energy as a coach makes these men feel good about themselves – like a magician for men. That’s why I think she’s special. I may know my stuff inside out like a lawyer, but I do not specialize in making women feel like queens, the way Allana makes men feel like kings.

Finally, at the end of the video, she says things that I wish I thought of on how to be a genuinely confident and feminine powerhouse. If you don’t like men, don’t trust men, don’t believe in men, see the worst in men, it’s hard to do well with men.

Allana TRULY loves men. And that’s why she’s worth your time and attention. I highly encourage you to take a half hour to watch and absorb.

When you’re done, come back here and please, share your thoughts. Thanks, as always, for trusting my judgment and taking a chance on some new information.

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Giving thanks could be the key to lasting relationships

Getty Images/Pascal Le Segretain Think back to the last time your partner did something nice for you. Now think about how you reacted to that little act of kindness. Research suggests that people who are grateful — not just by saying a quick "thanks…

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On Writing Interracial Relationships in YA, a guest post by Kate McGovern

… ’re starting to see these relationships reflected in YA literature more … up. Mixed relationships come in all stripes, just like non-mixed relationships, and …

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The five rules of successful client-agency relationships

… than hours spent. Invest in relationships Stop hiding behind technology, and …

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60% of us stay in bad relationships and put up with poor customer service

… relationship. WHY WE STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS Lucy Beresford, relationship expert and … . Compromise: We know that mature relationships require work, so we convince … nature, so we take our relationships cautiously, not throwing in the … to compromise in our intimate relationships might also be mirrored in …

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Wealth at Thanksgiving is in human relationships

… their wealth was in human relationships. They were generous and appreciative … also being rich in our relationships. Stay home with family. Reach …

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Wednesday, 25 November 2015

The Museum of Broken Relationships Needs Local Souvenirs of Sadness

… saw Broken Relationships, an exhibition from The Museum of Broken Relationships exhibit … constructing narratives ... about our relationships but when relationships end, we construct a … ; reads the description. When Broken Relationships opens at Ming Studios on …

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Strategic CRO relationships no more effective than traditional models, Tufts

… is making these types of relationships no more effective than traditional …

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How to maintain strong relationships with remote workers

… still struggle with maintaining strong relationships with coworkers. And it makes … every day. Importance of maintaining relationships Building a relationship with your … will help create stronger interpersonal relationships among remote employees. If not …

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Tuesday, 24 November 2015

From Libya To U.S.: Technology Alters Fabric Of Relationships

… our shared understanding would enhance relationships. Implicitly, it seemed the powerful … relationships at home, work, in politics and faith? The fraying of relationships … necessitates getting faster at building relationships and slower at acting like …

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White Ribbon Day focus on healthy, respectful relationships

… focuses on healthy and respectful relationships Taranaki DHB is supporting the … relationships’, which aims to change attitudes and behaviours to encourage respectful relationships … commitment to promoting safe, healthy relationships within families. It also encourages …

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Buy or Sell: USD/JPY Pivots Near Wave Relationships

… top came near several wave relationships -Bears can sell rallies in …

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Mormon Woman Grapples With New Church Guidelines On Same-Sex Relationships

… Mormons in same-sex relationships. Children of parents in same-sex relationships can no … 8, and Mormons in same-sex relationships face discipline from the church …

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Music can help doctors develop relationships with patients

… her self-awareness and strengthened her relationships with patients, according to an …

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Longmeadow author publishes book of short stories on relationships

… of five short stories exploring relationships between men and women. Benton …

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Building relationships with India

When entrepreneur Brad Loiselle first visited India in the hopes of launching a new business, he admits the trip was an eye-opening experience that made him second guess his goals. “To be honest with you, it was a shock,” he said Tuesday during a …

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(Quiz) 20 Signs You’ve Wasted Time on the Wrong Men and Don’t Know How to Choose the Right One.

20 Signs You’ve Wasted Time on the Wrong Men

You’ve heard of the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

I have no doubt that men and dating have driven you mad before.

“Why does he look at my profile but never write to me?”

“Why does he hook up with me but not want to be my boyfriend?”

“Why does he tell me he loves me but treats me so poorly?”

These mixed messages are the hardest thing to take – and it’s hard to find any measure of objectivity when the subject is so close to home.

Hell, it’s even relationship cliché: “Don’t try to fix her. Just listen to her.”

But I have to admit something that’s hard for me to say out loud:

I sometimes feel like I’m going crazy, too.

As a dating coach since 2003, I know exactly what to expect when I post something on my blog, or share a quote on Facebook – and yet I’m always surprised when I rub people the wrong way.

The very women I’m trying to help – the very women I’ve devoted my life to – often have a negative reaction to my advice. And it’s always the same exact story.

I’ll post something really positive about finding a quality, trustworthy man who makes a consistent effort to make you feel safe, heard and understood…

Within seconds, I receive comments like:

“Men are pigs!”
“You can’t trust guys at all!”
“There’s no such thing as unconditional love!”

As a trustworthy guy, a happily married man, and a dating coach who has helped thousands of women find love, I tend to take such false statements personally. 

But I shouldn’t.

I should know that these women are in pain, that they don’t mean what they say, that they’re just venting and looking for support.

Hell, it’s even relationship cliché: “Don’t try to fix her. Just listen to her.”

But do I listen? No.

I’m a guy. I try to fix.

I point out rationally that their statements are untrue. That there are plenty of trustworthy men. That there are millions of happy couples. That it’s one thing to feel hurt; it’s quite another to believe that one entire gender is so bad that no couples in the world are actually happy.

Technically, I’m “right.” But it doesn’t matter.

The second I contradict the narrative that men are scumbags, I have revealed myself to be part of the problem: just another patronizing guy who doesn’t understand women.

Talk about the definition of insanity!

So from one flawed human being to another: I am always open to learning what I can do better to get different results, and I hope you are, too.

I have just finished the final week in my inaugural Love U course, and it has been an amazing six-month journey. I learn so much from my clients each day and I continue to pour that knowledge back into my coaching for your benefit.

That’s why I strongly encourage you to take my new quiz: “20 Signs You’ve Wasted Time on the Wrong Men and Don’t Know How to Choose the Right One.”

After listening closely to the experiences of 250 women, I have discovered twenty telltale signs that indicate unhealthy relationship choices.

When you’re done with my quiz, you will get an assessment as to whether you are Confident, Mildly Insecure, Insecure or Very Insecure.

Whatever the answer, just know that I’m not judging you whatsoever.

I can assure you: that change doesn’t involve giving up on men and love forever.

As a dating coach, my job is to hold up a mirror so you can see for yourself what’s working and what’s not.

Once you see evidence that men have repeatedly mistreated you, you’ll have all the impetus you need to make a big change in your life.

I can assure you: that change doesn’t involve giving up on men and love forever.

Rather, it means learning how to conduct yourself with confidence to repel the wrong men and attract the right ones.

Click here to take my quiz and get your free assessment.

I’ll let you know the results for my entire mailing list in an upcoming newsletter.

In the meantime, if you’re American, have a very happy Thanksgiving. If you’re outside the states, have a very happy weekend.

And don’t forget to take a moment to be thankful for the many blessings in your life, instead of focusing on the things you’re lacking.

By this time next year, you’ll have one more thing to be thankful for.

Just you watch…

Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,

Evan

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Young people’s health Service highlights healthy relationships

… Information Service is highlighting healthy relationships as part of its current … people with knowledge of healthy relationships and relevant services available to …

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Relationships

MODERN Family actor Sofia Vergara has married Magic Mike hunk Joe Manganiello in stunning style, wearing a dramatic, low-cut gown. THEY say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. One cheating husband certainly found this out the hard way when his wife …

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Monday, 23 November 2015

Xana confirms ‘intimate’ relationships with top cops

… court to having had ‘intimate’ relationships with former top NT police …

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How Reverse Mortgage Lenders Can Forge Relationships with Financial Planners

… the code for forging successful relationships with financial advisers. At an … know when trying to forge relationships with financial planners and the …

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Scandal's 7 most toxic relationships

Let's just get this out there right away: Olivia's mother is a terrorist, and her father is the head of a brutal secret government agency. We’re not psychologists, but perhaps that’s not the best foundation for a stable childhood. Moreover, Olivia …

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The Ultimate Guide to Better Work Relationships

… : ThinkStock Most of us have relationships with family, friends, our community … of my clients, their work relationships are the most challenging. According … of relationships they must maneuver. Successful leaders have strong, trusting work relationships …

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6 Tips Toward Painless Service Provider Relationships

Thinking of outsourcing your WAN? These tips will help you build and maintain a successful long-term partnership with the right network service provider. Businesses of all kinds are outsourcing their WANs to managed network service providers. Several …

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Top 40 little pleasures in relationships

by Lucy Moore | 23 November 2015 Country walks..... Ordnance Survey Leisure found that couples are partial the little pleasures in life- and we find out what these are and why they are so important to lovers. A cuddle with your partner- His embrace makes …

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My Boyfriend Wants Me to Have Surgeries So I’ll Look Like a Porn Star

I have been reading and following your advice religiously for a year and a half. You have truly been a godsend and I thank you profusely. You have changed my life! My question is this: I have been in a year and a half relationship with a great guy. Sweet, caring, successful man who’s wonderful with my children. The list goes on. Two things have come to the surface. He likes to watch porn and that has been hard for me because my ex-husband was an extreme porn addict!! But I’m trying to understand his needs and not judge based on the past. But now he is asking me to have my breasts enlarged to an excessive size and labiaplasty. I already have size D implants and I had my children by C-section so everything is intact below. I’m 5’9″, 127 pounds and very fit. I work out 5 days a week. I’m 46, blonde and believe it or not I am carded often. I love him just as he is! Very handsome, but he doesn’t need to look like a porn star to make me happy. I feel he is trying to make me look like these women and it’s starting to hurt my self-esteem – which is pretty high in a healthy way. I am a realist. I look really good and am so blessed with the genes I have, but I understand looks can’t last…no matter how much plastic surgery I have. Your thoughts??? My head and heart all mixed up and hurting. Thank you.

Lisa

After my penis reduction (I took 4” off because of the discomfort I caused other partners), I swore I wouldn’t talk about plastic surgery on this blog.

Too personal. Too sensitive. Too icky.

But I couldn’t resist answering your question, because it’s hard to believe it’s even a question.

You describe yourself as very attractive. I’m in no position to argue.

You describe your boyfriend as a great guy. I’m in no position to argue.

This is a completely unacceptable request on his part – a request that should be met by indignation, not confusion.

You describe the type of surgery your boyfriend wants you to have to remain physically appealing to him. I am now in a position to argue.

I do believe that attraction is important.

I don’t believe that porn is the root of all evil.

I do believe that compromise is necessary for any relationship.

At the same time, your boyfriend’s request – asking you to compromise your integrity, looks and health so that he can feel more attracted to you, the way he’s attracted to porn stars – is so objectively wrong and distasteful, I am surprised you saw fit to run it by me first. The only letter I’ve ever received that is comparable is this one about a woman who dated a personal trainer who told her to keep her shirt on during sex.

Find another guy who loves you for who you are – inside and out – and you can later look back on this creepy chapter of your life with a laugh.

And my answer to you is the same as my answer to her:

This is a completely unacceptable request on his part – a request that should be met by indignation, not confusion.

You may have loved your boyfriend for the past year and a half, but his tastes and proclivities do not make this third party observer feel safe that he’s a good husband candidate.

Find another guy who loves you for who you are – inside and out – and you can later look back on this creepy chapter of your life with a laugh.

Sort of like my penis reduction. Is that even a thing?

(Hmm…Evidently, it is.)

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Richard Cairns: Teachers mustn't shy away from teaching about gay relationships

… whether one approves of homosexual relationships. It is simply about whether …

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Sunday, 22 November 2015

Big mistakes women make in relationships

… blunders that women make in relationships. Chief among them is over-analysing …

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Happiness and lasting relationships rely on one habit

Think back to the last time your partner did something nice for you. Now think about how you reacted to that little act of kindness. Research suggests that people who are grateful — not just by saying a quick "thanks" but also by internally …

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Happiness, Lasting Relationships Rely on One Habit

TEHRAN (FNA)- Think back to the last time your wife or husband did something nice for you. Now think about how you reacted to that little act of kindness. Research suggests that people who are grateful — not just by saying a quick "thanks" but …

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Saturday, 21 November 2015

Satisfaction and lasting relationships rely on one habit

Friday, 20 November 2015

Undercover cops tricked women into relationships

… seven women deceived into sexual relationships with officers on undercover assignments … “abusive, deceitful, manipulative and wrong” relationships and said that settlements had … animal rights. Hewitt said such relationships “should never have happened”, calling …

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Camp: Thanksgiving calls us to consider our relationships with the world

As I ate my soup, which I purchased with money I earned, I thought of Thanksgiving. Why am I thankful for soup that is good, but not fantastic, and which I earned the money to purchase at a cost slightly above what I think it’s worth? One of our greatest …

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Apology for women 'abused, deceived' by undercover officers in sexual relationships

… to seven women who had relationships with undercover officers. The officers … .3 million. One of the relationships lasted nine years and resulted … ;. "I acknowledge that these relationships were a violation of the … the abusive nature of these relationships and that they should never …

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Gering Public Schools thrive through relationships

Relationships are an integral part of … impressed by the depth of relationships in Gering’s schools. They …

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Facebook Gives Users Tools To Deal With Past Relationships

Trying to turn off fewer users, Facebook is testing tools to help them manage how they interact with former flings. Now, when people change their relationship status to indicate they are no longer in a relationship, they will be prompted to try these …

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Research finds wild birds will choose relationships rather than sustenance

… tits chose to prioritise their relationships over sustenance in a novel … benefits of maintaining their key relationships.” The research was carried out …

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Police apologise as seven women deceived into relationships with undercover cops

That is exactly what Jaye did and she mystified the internet in the process. In a video clip she posted to Tumblr, Jaye shows off her new hairstyle, which appears to be a usual dark brown hue - until she runs her fingers through it and a rainbow of …

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Why Empathy Is Key for Your Relationships

… most significant factor in building relationships. Whether it's with … key building block of relationships. Outside of personal relationships, empathy is the … you would have otherwise employed. Relationships are the most important things … . Thus, using empathy in our relationships can drastically improve our lives.

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Police apologise to seven women over relationships with undercover officers

… ;abusive, deceitful and manipulative" relationships with undercover police officers have … relationships and that they should never happen." They said the relationships … . Some entered into long-term sexual relationships with women after going undercover …

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Len Goodman: I disapprove of Strictly Come Dancing relationships

… he doesn’t approve of relationships between dancers and celebrities on …

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Scotland Yard's multi-million pound apology to seven women deceived into relationships with officers

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News24.com | UK police admit abuses over undercover relationships

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Police apologises to women over relationships with undercover officers

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Artists show something beautiful can come out of long distance relationships

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Police apologise to women who had relationships with undercover cops

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Facebook makes ending relationships less painful

Facebook is experimenting with a new set of tools that’ll make it easier for all parties involved to move forward following a breakup. Starting today, when a breakup occurs and people change their relationship status, the social network will prompt them …

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Met Police apologises to women tricked into relationships with undercover officers

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Why Do Ambitious Women Only Want Ambitious Men?

Here’s the latest video from the series I created with Three Day Rule. It’s called “Why Do Ambitious Women Only Want Ambitious Men?”

In it, Kate and I discuss how having extremely high standards can also hinder your ability to find a suitable match. While neither of us recommends “lowering your standards,” we both emphasize that complementary personality types often make the best partners.

Please watch and share the video, then share your thoughts below.

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10 Absurd things everyone does in relationships

by Lucy Moore | 20 November 2015 Text each other in the same house Tell your partner that you're fine- When you clearly aren't- but you insist on playing a game of 'if you can't guess- I won't tell you'. Promise to change with no …

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Scotland Yard apologises to seven women coerced into 'abusive, manipulative' relationships with undercover officers

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Police pay compensation to 7 women led into 'abusive' and 'deceitful' relationships with undercover officers

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Police apologise to seven women over relationships with undercover officers

Scotland Yard apologises to seven women deceived into relationships with undercover officers

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Police apologise to women who had relationships with undercover officers

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Thursday, 19 November 2015

Inaugural Benchmark Study of Retailer-Vendor Relationships Gives Current State a Grade of Just a B-

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Woman raised in the Bible Belt ended up in TWO abusive relationships

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Facebook Trying To Improve The Experience When Relationships End

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Woman raised in the Bible Belt by religious parents says she ended up in TWO abusive relationships - because being banned from dating made her ‘ignorant’ about men

Mo'Nique Talks About Open Relationships

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Facebook : Improving the Experience When Relationships End

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Happiness and lasting relationships rely on one habit

Think back to the last time your partner did something nice for you. Now, think about how you reacted to that little act of kindness. Research suggests that people who are grateful — not just by saying a quick 'thanks' but by internally processing …

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Giving thanks is actually good for you — and it may be the secret to lasting relationships

Engel & Völkers Pioneering the Way to Cuban / US Relationships

The Engel & Völkers Florida Keys team races to Havana, Cuba this week. Key West, Florida (PRWEB) November 19, 2015 Bon voyage to Engel & Völkers Florida Keys team! Today four of their advisors have embarked on the 2015 Havana Thunder Challenge …

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Former 'Walking Dead' star captivates Jacksonville crowd with songs, stories about past relationships

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Adversity Breeds Compassion…And Contempt

Adversity Breeds Compassion...And Contempt

Fascinating article from the New York Times. It’s not about dating, per se, but it’s about how people act, which is easily applicable to relationships.

According to David DeSteno, writing in “Emotion”:

“Our intuition was that surviving hardships in life would lead people to become more generous, kind and supportive. After all, if you’ve lived through dire straits, you’re all too familiar with the pain and challenges involved. You can more readily adopt the perspective of someone in distress — you can feel his pain — and thus are more likely to lend a hand.”

That makes sense to me. I had anxiety and depression issues in my 20’s. Now that I’m on the other side of it, I’m extremely sensitive to mental illness and the stigmas around it. I wouldn’t wish anxiety and depression on my worst enemy. And, sure enough, that’s what the studies showed.

“Those who had faced increasingly severe adversities in life — loss of a loved one at an early age, threats of violence or the consequences of a natural disaster — were more likely to empathize with others in distress, and, as a result, feel more compassion for them. And of utmost importance, the more compassion they felt, the more money they donated (in the first study) or the more time they devoted to helping the other complete his work (in the second).”

But if that’s all that the study showed, I wouldn’t be sharing it with you today. What makes the above finding even more interesting is this contradictory information:

I wouldn’t wish anxiety and depression on my worst enemy.

“In an article recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the Kellogg School of Management professor Loran Nordgren and colleagues found that the human mind has a bit of a perverse glitch when it comes to remembering its own past hardships: It regularly makes them appear to be less distressing than they actually were.

As a result of this glitch, reflecting on your own past experience with a specific misfortune will very likely cause you to underappreciate just how trying that exact challenge can be for someone else (or was, in fact, for you at the time). You overcame it, you think; so should he. The result? You lack compassion.”

Strangely, this makes sense, too. You see a lot of good hearted people telling poor people and minorities that they pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, and so should they. Never mind that the circumstances may be completely different for underprivileged Hispanics in East LA; the presumption is that if my Russian ancestors who came thru Ellis Island persevered and assimilated, so should Mexicans.

DeSteno summarizes: “Living through hardship doesn’t either warm hearts or harden them; it does both. Having known suffering in life usually heightens the compassion we feel for others, except when the suffering involves specific painful events that we know all too well. Here, familiarity really does breed contempt.”

Your thoughts, below, are greatly appreciated.

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