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Friday, 20 November 2015

Met Police apologises to women tricked into relationships with undercover officers

… who were duped in having relationships with undercover police officers, saying … , entered into long-term intimate sexual relationships with women which were abusive … of abuse caused by these relationships. 'Relationships like these should never …

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Why Do Ambitious Women Only Want Ambitious Men?

Here’s the latest video from the series I created with Three Day Rule. It’s called “Why Do Ambitious Women Only Want Ambitious Men?”

In it, Kate and I discuss how having extremely high standards can also hinder your ability to find a suitable match. While neither of us recommends “lowering your standards,” we both emphasize that complementary personality types often make the best partners.

Please watch and share the video, then share your thoughts below.

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10 Absurd things everyone does in relationships

by Lucy Moore | 20 November 2015 Text each other in the same house Tell your partner that you're fine- When you clearly aren't- but you insist on playing a game of 'if you can't guess- I won't tell you'. Promise to change with no …

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Scotland Yard apologises to seven women coerced into 'abusive, manipulative' relationships with undercover officers

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Police pay compensation to 7 women led into 'abusive' and 'deceitful' relationships with undercover officers

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Police apologise to seven women over relationships with undercover officers

… , deceitful, manipulative and wrong" relationships with undercover police officers. The … absolutely clear. "Most importantly, relationships like these should never have … assistant commissioner added that the relationships may well have reflected attitudes …

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Scotland Yard apologises to seven women deceived into relationships with undercover officers

… , deceitful, manipulative and wrong" relationships with undercover police officers. The … : "I acknowledge that these relationships were a violation of the … of abuse caused by these relationships." The force has not …

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Police apologise to women who had relationships with undercover officers

… were deceived into forming long-term relationships with undercover police officers, it … the women who had intimate relationships, lasting up to nine years … , entered into long-term intimate sexual relationships with women which were abusive … wrong. “I acknowledge that these relationships were a violation of the …

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Thursday, 19 November 2015

Inaugural Benchmark Study of Retailer-Vendor Relationships Gives Current State a Grade of Just a B-

Inaugural Benchmark Study of Retailer-Vendor Relationships Gives Current State a Grade … the state of trading partner relationships over time. The SCDigest study … to adequately manage their retailer relationships and meet compliance requirements. One …

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Woman raised in the Bible Belt ended up in TWO abusive relationships

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Facebook Trying To Improve The Experience When Relationships End

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Woman raised in the Bible Belt by religious parents says she ended up in TWO abusive relationships - because being banned from dating made her ‘ignorant’ about men

Mo'Nique Talks About Open Relationships

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Facebook : Improving the Experience When Relationships End

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Improving the Experience When Relationships End

Happiness and lasting relationships rely on one habit

Think back to the last time your partner did something nice for you. Now, think about how you reacted to that little act of kindness. Research suggests that people who are grateful — not just by saying a quick 'thanks' but by internally processing …

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Giving thanks is actually good for you — and it may be the secret to lasting relationships

Engel & Völkers Pioneering the Way to Cuban / US Relationships

The Engel & Völkers Florida Keys team races to Havana, Cuba this week. Key West, Florida (PRWEB) November 19, 2015 Bon voyage to Engel & Völkers Florida Keys team! Today four of their advisors have embarked on the 2015 Havana Thunder Challenge …

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Former 'Walking Dead' star captivates Jacksonville crowd with songs, stories about past relationships

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Adversity Breeds Compassion…And Contempt

Adversity Breeds Compassion...And Contempt

Fascinating article from the New York Times. It’s not about dating, per se, but it’s about how people act, which is easily applicable to relationships.

According to David DeSteno, writing in “Emotion”:

“Our intuition was that surviving hardships in life would lead people to become more generous, kind and supportive. After all, if you’ve lived through dire straits, you’re all too familiar with the pain and challenges involved. You can more readily adopt the perspective of someone in distress — you can feel his pain — and thus are more likely to lend a hand.”

That makes sense to me. I had anxiety and depression issues in my 20’s. Now that I’m on the other side of it, I’m extremely sensitive to mental illness and the stigmas around it. I wouldn’t wish anxiety and depression on my worst enemy. And, sure enough, that’s what the studies showed.

“Those who had faced increasingly severe adversities in life — loss of a loved one at an early age, threats of violence or the consequences of a natural disaster — were more likely to empathize with others in distress, and, as a result, feel more compassion for them. And of utmost importance, the more compassion they felt, the more money they donated (in the first study) or the more time they devoted to helping the other complete his work (in the second).”

But if that’s all that the study showed, I wouldn’t be sharing it with you today. What makes the above finding even more interesting is this contradictory information:

I wouldn’t wish anxiety and depression on my worst enemy.

“In an article recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the Kellogg School of Management professor Loran Nordgren and colleagues found that the human mind has a bit of a perverse glitch when it comes to remembering its own past hardships: It regularly makes them appear to be less distressing than they actually were.

As a result of this glitch, reflecting on your own past experience with a specific misfortune will very likely cause you to underappreciate just how trying that exact challenge can be for someone else (or was, in fact, for you at the time). You overcame it, you think; so should he. The result? You lack compassion.”

Strangely, this makes sense, too. You see a lot of good hearted people telling poor people and minorities that they pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, and so should they. Never mind that the circumstances may be completely different for underprivileged Hispanics in East LA; the presumption is that if my Russian ancestors who came thru Ellis Island persevered and assimilated, so should Mexicans.

DeSteno summarizes: “Living through hardship doesn’t either warm hearts or harden them; it does both. Having known suffering in life usually heightens the compassion we feel for others, except when the suffering involves specific painful events that we know all too well. Here, familiarity really does breed contempt.”

Your thoughts, below, are greatly appreciated.

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